Buried deep in our human psyche, there seems to be more than a need—almost a necessity—to celebrate the arrival of a new year. It’s like an unspoken, unlegislated cultural demand, as instinctual as moving to music or smiling at a newborn. Why? What deep human need is at work here?

As we prepare to begin this new year, it is helpful to remember three painfully honest truths, one of which is "You are not enough."

Rather than making resolutions about how we’re going to accomplish great things in 2020, let's do something different: resolve how to do well at failure.